What in Gay-Hell?!!!!

As an individual that only judges people based on their character (and more often than not- their physical attributes) I have many friends from all walks of life.


My favorite friends are my gay boys!


All through high school I watched as they were judged, mistreated and teased. Listened to my authority figures talk about God and how homosexuality is unnatural and an abomination before God- to which I always replied:

"Are you God? No? Ok then, its NOT your place to judge."

Oh how my daddy loved that comment! ;) But its a good point. Its so sad to watch our neighbors and friends who are genuinely all around good people and respected members of the community and religious congregations until they come out as gay. Then suddenly they end up marked with the scarlet letter branded into their foreheads. I could never understand how people's opinions change so quickly about a person after finding out their sexual preference went against the norm. The person themselves didn't change... other than they may have felt mildly more liberated after letting out one of the deepest secrets of their life!


As i've continually stood up for my friends the self-righteous and judgmental members of my community would quote me 2 scriptures:

^{Leviticus 18:22:" (22)} Thou shalt not lie with mankind, as with womankind: it is abomination."

Leviticus 20:13: "(13) If a man also lie with mankind, as he lieth with a woman, both of them have committed an abomination: they shall surely be put to death; their blood shall be upon them."

I even had a former bishop tell me once that as a culture and as a church of God, "we are becoming too tolerant and too accepting of the gay lifestyle." I'm sorry, but when as a human race are we ever TOO tolerant and accepting of anyone? Especially in an organization that preaches acceptance, love one another, thou shalt not judge and so on and so forth. Christ himself was constantly seen with the lepers, the rejects and the sinners- without casting judgement or doubt, he loved each and everyone of them completely, no questions asked- so why is it a double standard for us when we're taught from a young age to try to be like Jesus.


One of my favorite songs growing up in church was this:

"I'm trying to be like Jesus;

I'm following in his ways.

I'm trying to love as he did,

In all that i do and say.

At times I am tempted to make a wrong choice,

But i try to listen as the still small voice whispers:

Love one another as Jesus loves you

Try to show kindness in all that you do

Be gently and loving in deed and in thought

For these are the things Jesus taught.

I'm trying to love my neighbor

I'm learning to serve my friends

I watch for the day of gladness

When Jesus will come again

I try to remember the lessons he taught

Then the Holy Spirit enters my thoughts, saying:

Love one another as Jesus loves you.

Try to show kindness in all that you do

Be gentle and loving in deed and in thought

For these are the things Jesus taught."

Its a sad day when your faith, spirituality and trust in the members and leaders of religion start becoming questioned in your mind because of the contrasting principles found throughout the scriptures and talks. 

'Leviticus 18:29-- says regarding all offenders: "Whosoever shall commit any of these abominations, even the souls that commit them shall be cut off from among their people"

Yet both Matthew and John say something else entirely:

John 13:34- " (34)A new commandment I give unto you, That ye love one another; as I have loved you, that ye also love one another.

Mathew 22:37-39- "(37)Jesus said unto him, Thou shalt love the Lord thy God with all thy heart, and with all thy soul, and with all thy mind. (38)This is the first and great commandment. (39)And the second is like unto it, Thou shalt love thy neighbor as thyself.

I personally prefer the last 2... be a good person, dont rape or kill or steal... work hard and dont live off of my taxes... dont cheat... and we'll get along fine, no matter if you believe in God, dont believe in God, are LGTBQQI, straight, rich, poor, whatever.

While going through my sexual assault counseling training we covered this very topic. My very favorite exercise is included below. This questionnaire written by Martin Rochmlin, Ph.D ©1972 was asked to each of us individually and puts the entire gay and lesbian lifestyle into a better perspective.

Read each question asked incessantly to the gay members of our community and consider how asinine each inquiry really is when switched around to fit the 'norm' lifestyle:

1. What do you think caused your heterosexuality?

2. When and how did you first decide you were a heterosexual?

3. Is it possible your heterosexuality is just a phase you may grow out of?

4. Could it be that your heterosexuality stems from a neurotic fear of others of the same sex?

5. If you’ve never slept with a person of the same sex, how can you be sure you wouldn’t prefer that?

6. To whom have you disclosed your heterosexual tendencies? How did they react?

7. Why do heterosexuals feel compelled to seduce others into their lifestyle?

8. Why do you insist on flaunting your heterosexuality? Can’t you just be what you are and keep it quiet?

9. A disproportionate majority of child molesters are heterosexual men. Do you consider it safe to expose children to heterosexual male teachers, pediatricians, priests, or scoutmasters?

10. With all the societal support for marriage, the divorce rate is spiraling. Why are there so few stable relationships among heterosexuals?

11. Why do heterosexuals place so much emphasis on sex?

12. Could you trust a heterosexual therapist to be objective? Don’t you fear s/he might be

inclined to influence you in the direction of her/his own leanings?

13. With the sexually segregated living conditions of military life, isn’t heterosexuality

incompatible with military service?

14. How can you enjoy an emotionally fulfilling experience with a person of the other sex when there are such vast differences between you? How can a man know what pleases a woman sexually or vice-versa?

15. Shouldn’t you ask your far-out straight cohorts, like skinheads and born-agains, to keep

quiet? Wouldn’t that improve your image?

16. Why are heterosexuals so promiscuous?

17. There seem to be very few happy heterosexuals. Techniques have been developed that might enable you to change if you really want to. After all, you never deliberately chose to be a heterosexual, did you? Have you considered aversion therapy or Heterosexuals Anonymous?

I hope you enjoyed that little exercise!

Xo

-Reesa

Racist? Sexist? Political humor? Stop Being So Sensitive!!!

"One Nation Under God, Indivisible, With Liberty, and Justice For All."

I am so tired of hearing any comment or criticism of anyone non-Caucasian suddenly indicating that the offender is an ignorant racist.

First off let me start by saying i am the FARTHEST person away from being racist. I will call it like i see it, call it like i hear it- with absolutely no regard to the color of your skin or your ethnic heritage- because frankly i don't give a damn where you're from; if you're an idiot you're an idiot!

I couldn't care less if you're black, white, yellow, orange, green, purple or rainbow with sprinkles. Nor if you're gay, straight, slightly bent, or swinging. I dont care if you rock the turbin, a mumu, or a kilt. It doesn't matter if you believe in God, Buddah, Allah, or nothing at all. Or if you drink, do drugs or are as prudent as they come. My opinion of you is based solely on your character and your actions... and more than likely on your physical attributes if you're especially unfortunate looking. Be a good person and you're alright in my book!

I'll be the first to stand up and say slavery was wrong, prejudice and discrimination are wrong- but i'm also going to be the first to stand up and say- 'Welcome to our country- learn English, work hard, be a productive & valuable member of society and pass a random drug test if you ever need to utilize governmentally funded programs.' 

Ooops- call me a racist again for having pride and high expectations of our country. Sorry if you dont have enough respect for our country to learn the language.

So lets discuss double standards and the misconception of racism:

Racism is defined as: hatred or intolerance of another race or other races; a belief that inherent differences among the various human races determine cultural or individual achievement, usually involving the idea that one's own race is superior and has the right to rule others; discrimination.

Now that we've clarified what it IS, lets talk about what it is not.

Referring to Obama as an incompetent ape because of his lack of experience and proven unsuccessful tenure as POTUS is not racist. More than once George Bush and Condoleeza Rice (who is a black woman) were depicted as a monkey's and the public looked the other way disregarding it as mere liberal political humor.

Dont get me wrong, i understand that being referred to as a monkey is a sensitive spot for some individuals because of slavery and ethnic heritage- but let it GO seriously. The Civil war ended in 1865 and while there are some areas (predominantly in the impoverished uneducated white from the south) that are still extremely racist towards the african american culture- most of the country has moved on. It seems the only culture now that really cares about playing the race card are the african americans themselves. Yes, what happened to your ancestors was unacceptable and is an embarrassment to all of us- but seriously its time to stop leaning on THAT crutch and take the race card out of the deck. Its about as useful as the Joker card of the deck.

The double standards of this country are sickening. If we were to have the United Caucasian College Fund- we would be "discriminatory and racist" If we had White History Month- we would be "discriminatory and racist" Not that i care that we have the United Negro College Fund and Black History Month- I think they are fantastic organizations and great ways to celebrate history. But the double standard is still there.

How can I as a lower-middle class White girl have the arrogance to criticize anything a black person does? That must mean i'm a racist! Bring me my shoes... lets see if they fit!

If i dont vote for Obama- it must be because i'm racist. If i didn't vote for Hilary, I must also be sexist. See? Vote for Obama because he’s Black, you are enlightened, progressive and fair minded. Don’t vote for Obama, even if it’s because you totally disagree with his unhinged liberal dementia, you are a racist.

"NO White PERSON ON EARTH is allowed to criticize Barack Obama, even on matters that have nothing to do with ethnicity such as his policies and flamingly liberal bias, because THAT WOULD BE RACIST." -Unknown

"And here’s a really racist question: Why haven’t blacks assimilated completely into American society, even after the federal government has spent more than $700 billion dollars on the poor—largely on poor blacks—since former President Lyndon Johnson vastly expanded welfare with his War on Poverty nearly 40 years ago? Irish people like me have assimilated, and my immigrant ancestors were valued below slaves when they arrived on the boats in places like New York and New Orleans at the height of their great flight from Irish hunger a century ago. And millions of Mexicans are assimilating right before our eyes. Is it really because racism continues to keep blacks down, or is it their own fault, a fault that mainly has to do with their desire—or lack of it—to stand on their own two feet? These are all terrible questions for a white man to ask, I know. I must indeed be a racist to bring these things up." -Dave Duffy

"You have brains in your head. You have feet in your shoes. You can steer yourself any direction you choose. You're on your own. And you know what you know. And YOU are the one who'll decide where to go..." -Dr. Seuss

Our country is supposed to be " One nation under God" unless of coarse you're agnostic- then there is no God in your nation- but regardless, we are supposed to be ONE NATION!

We aren't 'African-Americans', 'American-Indians', 'Irish-Americans', 'Mexican-Americans'... We are AMERICANS. 

We all share with the same rights, the same freedoms and the same opportunities. Its just too bad the race card is thrown in when no justifiable argument can be disclosed. The minorities of our country have more opportunity than myself as a married with children, working, law-abiding, tax paying, lower middle class white girl. You try finding scholarships for someone with my credentials!

Indivisible. We as a country pledge to be inseparable, unbreakable and unified when we state that word.

With Liberty. Encompasses our free speech, independence and opportunity.

and Justice for all... well... this is questionable looking at our justice system as of late- but thats another blog entirely! ;)

So why is it as a country we have become so separated?

We are separated by skin color, by religion, by the area we live in. And then politically we are separated- right wing, left wing, liberal, conservative, tea party.. blah blah blah. Aren't we all supposed to be fighting for the same thing?

Its too bad that politics have become nothing more than high school popularity contests aimed at slandering opponents and their families, achieving social status and security while being continually fixated on crooked deals and under the table manipulations to feed their own deceitful agendas. They've all stopped being for the people they were elected to represent and now only look out for themselves.

So please explain to me how a simple comment like referring to Obama as a stupid ape- based on his social ineptitude and physical appearance falls under the category of racism. Its NOT hatred or intolerance of him because he's HALF black, I DONT believe the white race is superior- actually the opposite- most are fat; lazy white hill-billy slobs that rely on government assistance instead of putting in an honest days work. And I sure as hell am NOT discriminating or singling out Obama because he's half black. Hell lets vote in Oprah Winfrey and have ourselves the first black woman president of the United States! At least she's a better representation of her heritage than Mr Osama Obama!

A twit is a twit- 

no matter what color 

they are- 

No matter what

country they're from,

be they near or be far.

"I know, up on top you are seeing great sights, but down here at the bottom we, too, should have rights."- Dr. Suess

The END.